Bare and Me Takes Handmade Jewelry to The Next Level of Swoon Worthy Delights to GBK’s 2016 Golden Globes Celebrity Gift Lounge

Laurie Anne Calkins designer of Bare and Me is looking to make a huge splash at the GBK’s 2016 Golden Globes Celebrity Gift Lounge with their collection of beautifully handcrafted “Multi Color Barrel Sapphire Collection” along with other designs and will gift their signature “Love Links Necklace” to attending celebrities. The Gift Lounge takes place January 8-9, 2016 at an exclusive location in Hollywood, California.
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“We love, love here at Bare and Me. Our hope is that the recipients love our love links necklace as much as we loved designing and creating it for them”…

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Bare and Me (http://www.bareandme.etsy.com) & (http://www.bareandme.com), in association with The Artisan Group®, will be displaying a beautifully crafted collection of their barrel sapphire and sleeping beauty statement pieces along with several other signature designs. Bare and Me will gift its Love Link Necklace to celebrities visiting The Artisan Group’s exhibit. The Gift Lounge takes place January 8-9, 2016 at an exclusive location in Hollywood, California.
Laurie Anne Calkins, designer/founder of Bare and Me is known for her dainty, fresh and everyday jewelry designs for todays fashionista. You can find her on Etsy where her shop is most notably known to Brides for her wide variety of shiny, pretty little baubles for Bridesmaid Gifts. She has grown in popularity since she opened her shop Bare and Me on Etsy in January 3, 2014. You can find her most days on the front page of Etsy’s “Editors Picks” or on Etsy’s 2015 Wedding Look Book. She has been featured in Brides Magazine, Style Me Pretty, Ruffled Blog, Refinery29 and most notably they were featured on the cover of Weddings Illustrated in 2014 for her handcrafted floral crowns from sister shop Lillyput Lane Design Company on Etsy.
The gifted Love Links Necklace to celebrities attending the GBK’s Gifting Lounge is made with mixed metal; sterling silver/gold filled beaded wire hard-wired into love links with a double strand of dainty sterling silver chain. Laurie says, “The meaningful sentiment behind our Love Links Collection is two souls intertwined for eternity, the perfect gift for lovers, Mother and Child or just your best friend”.
Laurie is hard at work bringing handcrafted beauty to the celebrity world but she also is one of the co/founders and CFO of Urban Bar-B-Que Company which was just featured in Entrepreneurs Magazine for Best Franchises for quick serve restauranteurs. They recently just opened their 10th location. Although she is successful in the restaurant business, her love of creating and designing jewelry is where her passion is.
Journalists who would like to reach out to Laurie can do so using the Email button at the right-hand side of this press release.

It really is all about that #love

I am not your typical sappy “love” girl. I never have been but I recently just had a give-a-way for our jewels and instead of asking our girls to comment on our baubles, I asked them to comment on “what love means to them?”.

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Whoa, the responses were incredible and really gave me food for thought…

Does love really fuel us that much?

Are we really so accustomed to cynicism and heartache that love is an undertone?

Well, here is my personal thoughts on “love” and what it means to me;

“For me, love is an uncontrollable emotion that leaves you still in thought, manic with crave but even more so, endless with forgiveness. What we love will always let you down at some point. Why? Because we are human. But it is your willingness to survive the hurt to believe in love that makes a truly soulful heart and a soul mate forever. I believe that “love” is the most powerful emotional known to man.”

I could write a book on this but you have to read the beautiful comments made by just wonderful people…

Christina Elizabeth Karsoyan-  Love means, something you really care about and your love is unconditional to them you love that something so much you can’t even express how you feel. I love someone, and that’s everybody. So love for me means your emotions for them or whoever is unconditional.

Bre Barton Love is laughing together and not always having to be right.

Nancy P. Torres Love is what keeps me going daily, the driving force behind my intentions and actions and the answers to life’s toughest questions. Its meaning is multifaceted, changing with each circumstance and evolving with time and growth. It is the constant exchange of allowing others to come into our lives, break down our walls and evaluate what place they have in our hearts. Love is worth every sacrifice.

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Chelsea Hewett Love is a babies smile or kisses from your puppy. Love is so fulfilling it’s in the moment.

Hye Rin Lee Love is the most powerful thing in the world

Erika Sánchez Love is everything

Kara Rubin Love is my four babies and their wonderful daddy!!!

Hye Rin Lee Love is all we have for me, my people and every creature.
unconditionally caring, helping, and giving my everything for all.
When you know about this really Love you would be a real person.

Anna Marie Adkins Love is never giving up on yourself, your family, and close friends.

Maura Ann Nolan Love means being that connected being that’s at the other end of the red string…that is forever supportive no matter if they believe in what you are doing or not…love means smiling to give the next person hope! Love means spreading happiness because everyone deserve to feel love and positivity and happiness by someone…love means hugging someone for just a minute longer to let the energy just take over their body!! Love

Kendra West Love is accepting that someone isn’t perfect and caring for them just as though they are. Love is putting the one you cherish before you, always. God loves me when I’m unlovable and I’m thankful for not only his love, but also my family & friends

Desiree Falcon Currently love means letting go. I was in a relationship where I finally felt safe, loved and appreciated. Due to his uncertainty of wanting kids he left me and now I’m forced to move on and pick up the pieces of my life. I still love him and his decision hurts but if he’s not happy I have to respect his decision and be happy that he was honest enough to not lead me on any further. Since this break up I have received so much love from my friends and family. I thought I was alone but I now know I’m not .

Lauryn Thomas Love bares all, knows all, love is what keeps us going!

Kristi Clumpner Love is patient and kind, the old proverb is true!

Rhonda Herring Love means my children and grandchildren. It’s that simple. I’ve never wanted another human in my life to be whole, happy and prosperous as much as I want that for them.

Shelby VanWormer love is looking into each others hearts and understanding the unique challenges we each face.

Fdrl Low Love is unconditional !

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Jessica Booterbaugh Love is family. It’s caring for people and doing anything to protect or comfort them

Barbara Keel Hand Love is unconditional! Thru the good and the bad, that what makes you stronger. Been married 30 years, and I fall more in love with my hubby everyday!

Heidi Nave-Reagan Love is knowing that you have someone else with you thru it all, good, bad, ugly, or perfection.

Chelsea Oliver Love is being happy with another person no matter their flaws. Always seeing the best in that person. Someone you don’t have to pretend in front of. Someone who can still make you feel young and beautiful on your worst days. That person you still find yourself flirting with and realizing how lucky you are to have that person in your life.

Lindsay Fergerson Love is having the courage to let someone else in after being broken. Love is just one more bedtime kiss for a sweet little face. Love is hearing a little voice say “Mama” for the first time. Love is loving a child that may not be yours by blood, but by heart. Love is loving some one more than you love yourself. Love is wonderful and healing and amazing!

Victoria Rivas To me, love is when I see my fiance, if even for two minutes, and it takes away every bad thing that’s happened, every stress, anxiety, or fear. One hug takes that all away, and makes me feel like the luckiest person I the world.

Lindsey Brianne Love is not looking for perfection in another person. If you truly love someone you look past their flaws and accept them for who they are. You never want to change someone if you truly love them. Love is when you feel completely comfortable around them and they are the first person you want to tell something to. They are the first person you think of when you wake up and go to sleep. But in order to love someone else, you have to love yourself first.

Britney Johnson Love means accepting another person in the strongest way possible. It means supporting them in anything and everything, even when you may not agree on the situation.

Love means not looking for something better or seeing what’s out there. It means committing to that person because you know they complete you in every way. It doesn’t mean being a replica of another person, but rather being like a puzzle piece that fits perfectly with the other. Your traits complement each other to create better versions of you both.

Love means waking up early and whipping up pancakes in the morning just to show you care. It means going out of your way to make them smile and, without even thinking about it, dropping everything for them in those times when smiles aren’t appropriate.

Love means screaming at the top of your lungs sometimes. It means caring so damn much about that other person that you can’t help but become furious when your relationship is called into question. It means fighting to get it back.
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Kealy Olvera Love is wanting to do the laundry for your other half even if it means your clothes have to wait. Love is giving someone the space they need to deal with a difficult situation but still being there without hesitation. Love is helping friends in need because you wouldn’t be here without them. Love is indescribable. It’s everything and nothing at the same time. Love is what feeds my soul.

Bre Barton 💕love is caring more for someone else and their happiness than yourself. It’s the simple acts, getting dressed in the dark so you don’t wake your spouse, or picking up their favorite dessert on the way home just because, and not always having to be right. It’s those everyday simple things that help form, grow and deepen love and help it last!

Jenna Faye Laney Love means joining with another person so that you are 2 separate entities part of the same heart. It means caring and praying for someone more than yourself. It means all or nothing.

Angela Askew Iove is a reflection of our self and what God would want us to be nothing like human love to make the world a beautiful place

Mallorie Hannon ♡ is my kids being happy and healthy!

Lindsay Blane Love is a boy who takes a chance on a girl and asks them to their prom, not knowing if it would be met with rejection. Love is being in a long distance relationship throughout college and graduate school from Buffalo to Philadelphia. Love is growing up with and sometimes apart from someone but always standing by each other’s side. Love is being on vacation and sitting on the phone in the hotel lobby until the sun comes up because your girlfriend is having a tough time adjusting to college and being away from home. Love is someone who stands unwaveringly by your side for 10 years 8 months and 11 days; and marries his high school sweetheart on the 12th day. Love is 10 years, 8 months and 12 days of ups and downs that’s triumphed by love, commitment and respect. Love is our journey; my high school sweetheart, best friend, and now husband as of March 7, 2015.

Love can mean anything… A person, a place, or a thing. To me love is a person, place and a thing. Wherever my love goes I follow it, my heart knows nothing more. My love is unconditional for my husband who puts his life on the line every day for me and our daughter, we will continue to follow him around the world as long as he’s in the Military because for those I love, I will sacrifice. (Winner)

Victoria Gaffney Love is complicated. It’s losing your breath, sore cheeks from smiling, unconditional forgivness, selfless , keeping all the pain bottled and watching it explode, being strong enough for someone else, it’s seeing past faults to find greatness. Love is complicated and never explained well enough to create the feeling it gives us. Love to me is everything. And everything has love for me (Winner)

Monique Martinez Love is something everyone should get to experience at least once in their life. Love to me means taking the good times along with the bad times and embracing them. Love is ups and downs BUT always sticking together. You can love someone… BUT being IN LOVE with someone is the best feeling in the world. Love is seeing the person you love smile everyday. (Winner)

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Mercedes Patterson What love means to me? I simply feel that love is, kind, humble and peaceful. Being kind and humble I feel brings love to one another. This is a kind of love that you don’t need to spend years with people, or even know them for that matter. But what a simple “I thought about you” or “Good Morning” can warm, and bring a sense of peace to the heart!

Love is about my family & being with my husband any chance we get. Being in the military, he will miss our daughter’s milestones, our birthdays, holidays, etc. Love is reassuring him I will still be here every time he returns, just like I promised!

Erica Lake Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails. 1Corinthians 13:7-8

Morgan Morton Love is the best feeling in the world. It’s about giving your all and not expecting anything back. Having butterflies every time you think of that special someone, being child or spouse. You will never forget what it feels like or lose hope. It’s amazing!!!

Heather Welsh-Brockett Love is my beautiful children… The strength of my parents from above giving me the courage to go out each day and never give up hope that peace and love will surround my babies and I… I am truly humbled every day by what I get back

Eliza Marie Esparza To me… Love is conquering everything out there that attacks a relationship. Whether it’s with your children, spouse, friends, or family. Love is seeing beyond the past of one another and loving each other with all flaws anyway. Love is picking up each other’s broken pieces and renewing the heart as a whole designing it to be stronger and doing everything in your power to stay in a person’s life. Love is waking up at 3 in the morning thinking about that special someone even if they’re right by your side. Love is putting that one person before anything and everyone else. Love is whatever makes you keep going; makes you feel confident, beautiful, joyful, and strong… Powerful… Complete. Love may make you do stupid things sometimes, but for the most part, love gives you the drive to wake up every morning and want to be and do better. It makes you want to shoot towards success with your every dying breath. Love is certainly a necessity to everyone, for it can keep even the most sad person going and it can change lives in incredible ways! Love is more than just a feeling.. It is a lifestyle.

Sarah Richey 4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. 8 Love never fails. 1 Corinthians 13:4-8
This is what love means to me!

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Adina Catherine Love is knowing your pregnancy would be complicated with twins in the same sac n placenta .love is knowing 50/50 chance you’ll get to hold your babies ..love is not knowing day-to-day if your premie 2#12oz and 3#6oz babies will be in the hospital for a while 45 and 110 days exactly..love is
not being able to be mom ..love is having a twin daughter with trachea tube and no nursing and another twin daughter to balance your every moment around now that they are home and love is never doubting the power of love between mother and daughters

Angela Askew Liked and shared love is good for the soul and inspires joy to the heart .that was taught to transform something beautiful to bring two souls together as one !

Johanna Sepulveda-Shah Love is the person who knows how damaged you are and never gives up in showing you that you are worth it. You are special, beautiful, smart and loved. Love is the feeling of coming home after a long days work and having your little girl run into your arms and say, “mommy I missed you!”

Susan Paolucci Musetti Love is my husband working his but off to support his kids and I then coming home late and still taking care of me without complaint. I have MS and have very limited mobility and use if my hands and my husband picks up the slack without a complaint. That’s love.

Angela Milam Acceptance

Britney Johnson Love is complete acceptance: When we allow someone to be exactly as they are, without any belief that they aren’t good enough, without any belief that they would be “better” if they were different, this is love.

Love is completely unconditional: Love has no conditions. When we truly love someone, we can’t stop loving them, regardless of what they do or say. If our love is dependent upon the other person acting and speaking how we want, then this love is completely conditional. We often confuse this to be love, but this is just positive thoughts about someone. This is just loving what a person says or does, not loving them. Positive thoughts or the thought “I love you” isn’t necessary to love. Sometimes it even gets in the way.

Love is selfless: True love doesn’t want anything in return, because there is nothing it needs. We just love for the sake of love. When we love someone, we don’t look for them to fill our needs, love us back, and all those types of things. If that is what we are looking for, then we are just using the other person. What is the meaning of love? Love is completely selfless
Love comes in many different forms ♡

Angel Lynn Love to me is honesty and loyalty. It’s a pure feeling that can not be misunderstood. When you have love you have the beauty of knowing what true happiness is. Sharing love with someone is so powerful that nothing can come between. What a beautiful thing to have. Love is marrying my best friend September 4, 2015.

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Ellen Richard Henchy Dickason Love is…making eye contact across the room and giving each other that special smile. Love is…laughing at the same time over something silly. Love is…sitting in silence and holding hands knowing you are each there for the other. Love is….

Tori McCrea Love is committing to that person, regardless of how you feel or your circumstances. Love is not a passing feeling but a firm commitment to being there no matter what may happen. Love is being held with no words after you’ve found out you lost your baby. Love is hearing your husband up every night praying for you when you’ve lost your speech due to a brain injury. Love is KNOWING that he’ll be there no matter what trials may come your way.

Victoria Rivas To me, love is when I see my fiance, if even for two minutes, and it takes away every bad thing that’s happened, every stress, anxiety, or fear. One hug takes that all away, and makes me feel like the luckiest person I the world.

Aubrey Wagner-Stuart Love is exactly what you say in those amazing, meaningful vows when you get married… to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish; from this day forward until death do us part My husband and I have faced many ups and downs in over 15 years together, but somehow we have stayed strong and stayed in love, despite all the hard things that life throws at you, and I am ever so grateful for that (and for him!!)

Susan Crispeno Berkheimer Love to me is someone who will stand by you no matter what is going on and respect you! Love is unconditional

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Brittany White Love is waking up in the morning and realizing that you are with your best friend. Love is looking into that persons eyes and realizing that you are the luckiest person in the world. Love is learning how to forgive. Love is staying up all night and talking about everything and nothing all at the same time. Love is the soft kisses and tight hugs at the end of a long day. Love is seeing the good, the bad, and the ugly and still wanting to stay by their side. Love is unconditional, patient, understanding, and giving. Love is getting butterflies from a single touch. Love is wanting to be a better person. Love is lifting others up. Loving is the enlightenment of the soul. It is you and it is me.

Jennifer Marie Having true support and a best friend who is there to laugh with you!

Tameka TheMrs Love is God.. Happiness and everlasting.. Love is the memories you hold close to your heart. Moms are Love..

Cinthia Saul Villalobos Will to take care of to the end with nothing in return love

Candice Garcia Love is unconditional wether it be family friends or whom ever you share it with,Love is unconditional

Melissa Esquivel Love is when someone accepts you the way you are with a good or bad past no judgment love is wanting you with all your flaws love is helping each other grow n motivate each other to be better to laugh be silly be kind to respect to honor to appreciate its family love is god given never too be taken for granted love is the best feeling in the world and everyone deserves to be loved

Stephanie Cartrette My husband of 20 years, my two children and my dog!!

Celene Casarez Love is joy that fills the heart, its family, and seeing your children, the smiles the shine in their eyes know that nothing maters more than the unconditional love that family and being a mother brings, good us good and the best gift he can give a woman is being a mother

Ursula Bonilla Love is an unconditional feeling that no matter how upset you are you wont stop loving that person. Love is putting someone’s feelings before yours because you want that person to be the most happy, and when that person you love is happy in every way… you are happy. Love is to think about that one person throughout the entire day..

Claudia Barreda Love is understanding the battle everyone goes through and seeing past that, it is seeing past the scars and finding beauty in them. God loved us unconditionally he didn’t see the bad or the ugly he just seen our heart love is doing just that.

Maria Mercado love is god without even a Lil bit of him it’s impossible . ….when you love something it will get protected from every thing . .like he does us….even when it’s love for our children and it’s tough we are still protecting them…..it’s funny warm understanding protective we take care of wt we love in any way there is so much more too much but this is all for now

Shilo Alexander Berg Any act of selflessness is an act of love. Love isn’t just hearts and rainbows… It’s also passion and pain and intensity.
LOVE MAKES YOU FEEL ALIVE

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I hope you enjoyed this #lovefest

WEDDING ETIQUETTE: DO’S AND DON’TS

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Traditionally, there are a few wedding protocols that are associated with planning a wedding. As a bride myself, there are several “rules” that I question throughout the process of planning. There are easy questions and there are questions I feel like I don’t even want to ask out loud. What I have to consistently remind myself of is that this our (Matt and I) big day and though it may seem like it, there aren’t any rules when planning a wedding. Here are some tough questions that I tried to answer 100% honestly.

 

What is the #1 of wedding etiquette?

Do not make your guest’s wait! Not only is it rude to have your guests waiting for you to walk down the aisle, but it also puts a damper on the entire celebration. It does not matter how great the catering is, how entertaining the DJ is, or how beautiful your decorations are…People will certainly not have fun at your wedding if it isn’t a timely production. Momentum is everything when it comes to celebrating at a wedding. Take advantage that is not only the most important element of your wedding, but that it does not cost a thing!

 

Single Guests. How do I tell them that they can’t bring a date?

This is your big day and you want to spend it with people that have had a big influence on your life, right? Right! If you have a strict budget, the easiest cuts to make to your guest lists are the people you don’t know. The only time it is acceptable to bring a date, is if they are in a serious relationship.

 

How do I tell a friend that she is not a bridesmaid?

This is a tough one. Being mindful and compassionate is about all the advice that I can give you. As long as you are honest with them, they should respect your decision.

 

How do I explain the lack of help to my Maid of Honor?

Choosing a Maid of Honor is an extremely hard decision that every bride has to make. Letting them know that you are happy and confident in your decision, will give them a sense of pride. Also, choosing a Maid of Honor is a two-way street. They have to accept the fact that they are responsible for being your right hand, which requires a lot of time, effort, and patience.

 

Is it acceptable to ask for cash as a wedding gift?

Personally, I don’t want the three toasters, matching mugs, and set of wine glasses. However, it is tacky to put on the invitation “Cash Gifts Only!” Letting your immediate family, Maid of Honor, and Best Man know your gift requests is your best bet, because guests will ask them for gift ideas.

 

I have a crazy mother-in-law that is overbearing during the planning of my wedding. How do I confront her?

Fortunately, I do not have this problem. However, I know a lot of brides that have run into this issue and it had put a stitch into the experience of planning their wedding. The important thing is to be respectful, loving, and honest. Letting her know that this is your big day, not hers. Though her opinions and ideas mean a lot to you, you’ve decided to go a different direction in the wedding plans.

Who sits at the bride and groom table?

Whoever you want! This is your big day and you have to remember that there aren’t any rules that you have to follow. Typically, there are three options. 1) Bride and Groom table, where you and your newly married lover share an intimate table. 2) Bride, Groom parents and siblings. 3) Bride, Groom, and Bridal Party.

 

How do I let people know that there will not be a full meal provided at the reception?

Instead of writing “Ceremony at _:__ time and reception to follow, simply write “Ceremony at _:__ with drinks and h’ordeuvres to follow. Personally, our wedding isn’t formal whatsoever. I didn’t like the idea of a plated dinner. To create a relaxed atmosphere, I wanted to have an extended cocktail hour. (Finger food, carving station, and open bar) Perfect! Like I said, there isn’t a rule book for planning weddings, just suggestions.

 

Who is invited to the rehearsal dinner?

Anybody you want! For me, I am inviting my family, the bridal party, and out-of-town guests.

 

These are only a few questions that I could think of. Let me know in the comments below if you can come up with any other questions for me!

 

Xo,

Jessica Calkins

On My Way Down the Aisle: Centerpieces! Shopping with Daddy & Matt

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In 6 months, 30 days, 11 hours, 5 minutes, and 44 seconds I will become Mrs. Schwartzback! I can’t believe how quickly this year is going by. There is so much planning left to do. Entertainment…cake…decor…invitations…so much on my mind! Last weekend, my Dad and I got to talking about what was left to plan. He offered to take me out to all the local Home Goods in our area to find some cool vases for the centerpieces this week. That’s exactly what we did!

What my vision for my centerpieces is simple yet adds to the bohemian element of my wedding. My table cloths are gray, napkins are white, cutlery is silver, and the glassware is a standard clear glass. I wanted something funky; different shapes, sizes, and colors. One of my favorite things to do as a designer is mix metals. So I chose mercury glass in shades of silver, golds, and rose golds. My Dad, Matt and I went to every single Home Goods within a 20 mile radius and wipe their shelves of everything made of mercury glass! The metallic element against the gray table-cloth will create a funky, yet elegant centerpiece design. As a nature lover myself, I had to add a naturalistic element to my centerpieces. So I plan on either chopping down a tree myself or buying the center cuts of a tree trunk and placing the vases on top!

As for my flowers, I was to keep the palette clean and neutral. Whites, greens, and maybe some blush colored flowers to bring out the Rose Gold Jewels that me and my bridesmaids are wearing, made by Bare and Me. I really love the look of succulents, in the shades of that dusty blue-gray, white peonies, and LOTS of greenery! Let me know what you think of my centerpiece vision in the comments below! I can’t wait to fill you in on the rest of the wedding details as we come closer and closer to my big day! Check out the pictures below!!

Xo,

Jessica Calkins

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On My Way Down the Aisle: My Maid of Honor’s Dress

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As I said in my last post, I was very interested in having all my bridesmaids pick their own dresses in a shade of light gray to blue-gray. Each of my bridesmaids would be comfortable in the dress, it would fit their budget, and it adds a bohemian element to my big day! I was so excited to start the adventure of discovering each dress, especially with my Maid of Honor, Mary.

A little about Mary… She and I met in design school about 4 years ago. Though we have only known each other for a short amount of time, I feel like I have known this girl my entire life. We share a lot of the same interests, one of them being design. We both don’t take ourselves seriously, so every time we are together, we cry from laughing so hard. We have our own language. She is the only person I can spend hours upon hours on the sofa watching Mary Kate & Ashley movies, without being judged. She has been there for me through thick and thin. She has one of the kindest hearts and truly cares for the people she loves. I am so lucky to be a part of her life and her of mine.

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The only requirements that I had given Mary for her dress was that it had to be a shade of light grey to blue-gray and it had to be floor length. Mary found a few dresses that she liked; a lot had a lace applique on the top with a chiffon skirt. We narrowed our choices to three, but there was clearly a first choice. The consultant told us that she was not sure if this dress could be produced in the color that we wanted. She said that she would call us on Monday to confirm whether or not we could. Crossing our fingers…Mary and I hoped that this dress could be made the way we wanted. On Monday, we found out that the lace applique could not come in the “graphite” color! The dress was perfect for Mary and I could tell that she loved it so much, so did I! So I asked them if we could have the lace applique in ivory and the rest of the dress in the “graphite” chiffon. The bridal consultant called the designer and said it wouldn’t be a problem! YAY!

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Tip: If you are planning a wedding and you want your bridesmaids to pick different styles and colors of dresses, then make sure you ask the vendor to send you a fabric swatch of the materials. This way, you can see what colors blend well with the shades that you’ve already picked. We have 4 more dresses to go…Here is a few pictures from our trip!

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Here is the link to the beautiful Jasmine Dress that Mary chose to wear on me and Matt’s wedding day! Great start, Maryfish. Love you…

ROSES ARE RED – AND OVERRATED

Boys- are you thinking about buying your girlfriend, fiancé, or wife some roses and chocolates for Valentine’s Day? Don’t. Roses are over played and just seem like you are falling into the category of people that crack under pressure by this commercial holiday. Instead, get creative in your present to your woman! Here are my favorite options…

Flowers. If you are going to go the flower route take advantage of the “farm-to-table” concept. I don’t mean go to a farm and pick your own flowers. I mean when purchasing flowers, take into consideration where the come from and the ones that are in season, because they will look the best. If you wanted the most beautiful roses that weren’t shipped from across the country, then Valentine’s Day should be rescheduled from February 14th to mid-spring through fall. Also, take into consideration the fragrance of the flowers. After all, this is a sensual holiday.

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Candy, Chocolates, and Food. Just like smell, taste is another strong sense that you want to trigger on Valentine’s Day. Instead of buying a heart shaped boxes from Whitman’s, try making something that will impress your significant other. If you really want to impress your significant other, come up with a menu that is comprised of foods that are known for their aphrodisiac qualities! Foods like honey, chocolate, and oysters are associated with sparking reactions of energy, love and passion.

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Jewelry. Staying in theme with the “farm-to-table” (farm fresh flowers) and DIY (making a romantic dinner yourself, instead of going out to dinner) purchasing jewels that are handmade are perfect for this kind of holiday. I can’t tell you how much time, heart and soul my mother, Laurie (owner of Bare & Me) puts into each piece that she handcrafts. From her Keepsake Pendants to her Heart and Arrow necklace, your significant other would be lucky to have one of these in her jewelry armoire! (Also, girls! Don’t forget about you mothers, sisters, and friends this year!) They deserve one too! Click the link “SHOP” at the top to view my mom’s collections. You won’t regret it! 😉

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I have a challenge for you. Don’t let people tell you that Valentine’s Day is the only day to treat you significant other, mothers, dads, sisters, brothers, and friends to something special. Telling someone constantly that you love them and appreciate them is what makes the feel special. Surprising them with small gifts here and there will have a bigger impact than a diamond on Valentine’s Day. Spread the love! Remind each person in your life that you hold close to your heart, and tell them that you love them…everyday up until Valentine’s Day…through your actions and through your words. Then, once you see how easy that was, continue to do so throughout the entirety of the year! We love you guys!

XOXO,

Jessica Calkins

On My Way Down the Aisle: Bridesmaids Dresses

Thinking about walking down the aisle to marry my best friend, is quite nerve racking. I’m sure there are a lot of girls out there that feel the same way. Every time I think about each step I will make towards Matt, my eyes start to tear up. When the song that Matt and I chose to walk down the aisle to plays on my Pandora Station at work, my eyes start to tear up. When I think about my Daddy walking me down the aisle arm and arm, my eyes start to tear up. But the one thing that I am excited about is having my best girlfriends stand by me while I make the biggest decision of my life, my bridesmaids.

My bridesmaids Mary, Samantha, Adrienne, Delaney, and Kristin will stand by my side on September 13th this year and I could not feel more blessed to have them a part of my wedding. Something that we are all excited about are the bridesmaid dresses! After choosing my dress, it’s now time for us to shop for them… Bridesmaid dresses should never upstage a bride, but enhance the brides dress and the theme of the wedding. There are different paths you can take when choosing the dresses.

Figure out everyone’s budget for the dress. Nowadays, you can either BUY or RENT a dress. One of my favorite websites for Buying or Renting a dress is littleborroweddress.com! They offer a bunch of styles of dresses in different colors. Because the shop is online, they will send you fabric swatches to make sure that you are satisfied with the color. Perfect! Once you buy or rent the dress, they send you two sizes in case the other does not quite fit! Little Borrowed Dress takes the guess factor out of purchasing a dress online.

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Same dress, same color. This is the traditional bridesmaid dress scenario. The style and the color of the dresses are the same. Usually, the bride will chose the dress and whether you love or hate the dress does not matter! You would wear anything to make your bride happy!

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(This obviously isn’t a picture of bridesmaids but flower girls! My sister (Samantha) and I are leading the flower girl line! Thought it was too cute not to put in this post! Still shows the same dress, same color concept!)

Same dress, different color. This is another bridesmaid dress scenario that is a bit of a twist of the traditional same dress, same color. This could either be a hit or a miss. If you are not careful with the colors you chose, there will not be any sense of consistency in your wedding photos. However, if you can pull this off, your wedding photos will be creative and fun! One of my favorite themes for same style with different colors is pastels.

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This is a photo from my friend Adrienne’s wedding with her two bridesmaids my sister and I! Different dress, same color! Adorable…

Different dress, different color. This could also be a hit or miss. I was a bridesmaid in my friend Kristin’s wedding and she could not have pulled it off more beautifully! Her colors were a champagne/blush theme. The different shades and styles of dresses created a bohemian/eclectic look. Each bridesmaid felt comfortable in her dress, considering we all got to pick our dresses!

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This photo, shot by Kati Rosado, is a PERFECT example of how to accomplish the different dress, different color deal! Well done, Kristin! ❤

I love each of these options for Bridesmaid Dress shopping! My favorite is probably the different styles of dresses with different shades of the color of your wedding…I might steal that from you Kristin ;).

XO,

Jessica Calkins

Bare and Me Valentine’s Day Give-A-Way…

WE love to give away our jewelry and especially to our best’s…

Join the fun.

Here is how it will work.

Our first give-a-away will be for our Heart and Arrow Locket.

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What to do to win this beautiful necklace for you or a loved one…

1. Comment about what you love about this necklace.

2. Join us on INSTAGRAM @bare_and_me  (follow us) and comment on the heart and arrow picture that is the same as above. Facebook Bare and Me. All links our on our side board of the blog.

That is it. We will choose a winner on January 22 2015 at 6pm eastern standard time.

WE would love if you could share us with your friends on all of our social media sites.

Good Luck,

Laurie

designer and creator of bare and me.

I Love You & I Want You…

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Lately, Matt and I have been very busy and have had a hard time making time for each other. We both have been promoted at our jobs, we have recently moved into a house of our own, (with a house comes larger bills and responsibilities), we are planning a wedding, we have our growing nine and a half month old puppy and ten and a half month old kitty, and friends and family that deserve our attention and our time! Our relationship has gone through many ups and downs, just like any relationship…However, we are consciously making vast efforts to make time for what is most important, each other. Here are some of our tips that we’ve been trying to implement throughout our weekly schedules.

#1 Remind each other that you are their number one priority. When Matt and I decided that we liked each other and we wanted to spend more and more time together, life was easy. We didn’t have a house, bills, a wedding to plan, animals to care for…It was literally Matt and I. All we did was focus on each other and make each other a priority in our lives. Then we added an apartment to the equation. This came along with bills and stress. Then we brought home Rosie and Moe…and the list goes on. When our relationship grew, so did our responsibilities and stress levels. We recognized that we were putting all the things in front of our relationship and that we had lost sight of why we were even here in the first place, each other. When you are going throughout your week, make sure to remind each other that you are their number one priority and everything else isn’t as important.

#2 Leave work at work. This is a big one! What a lot of people don’t understand is work is not what defines you. It took Matt and me a while to figure this one out. Both Matt and I work in stressful situations. For Matt – he is a teacher for the county and works with special needs students. This job requires an incredible amount of patience and compassion and can leave you feeling stressed by the end of the day. For me – I work in an environment where there are very high standards expected out of me, which I love. Every day is a challenge and learning to balance certain aspects can be stressful. However, when Matt and I come home from work, we leave our issues and stress at the door. Maybe if one of us had a bad day, we will talk about it with each other and help each other de-stress. For example, if Matt knows that I had a bad day at work, he will clean the house for me because he knows I hate coming home to a dirty house. He loves me…

#3 Organize your bills and responsibilities around the house and write them down. Money and bills are a huge factor in a marriage or any relationship that will eventually cause you stress. People will tell you that money doesn’t matter and love is the only thing that matters. That’s not true. In our world, money is what provides you with food, shelter, and peace of mind. It is important to keep in mind that money is only an object and it can’t make you happy, but it will stress you out. What Matt and I are currently doing to organize our bills and responsibilities is importing them into this App on our iPhones and iPad. Once everything is organized, then the fun begins. In order for us to accomplish our goals financially, we have been finding fun and entertaining ways of saving and spending our money.

#4 Learning how to fight. This is another important one. For me, when I get angry, I need space. If Matt keeps arguing with me, I won’t back down. He is the same way. We are VERY stubborn. What we have done to eliminate that aspect of arguing is give each other time and space away. Sometimes, it will only take Matt and I five minutes to smile at each other and then it’s over. Fighting in a relationship is normal, in fact, if you’re not fighting, there is something wrong. What the tricky part about relationships is learning how each other fight and learning what you need to not continue to fight. Learning how to fight has been one of Matt and I’s goals since the beginning of our relationship and we are perfecting it every single day.

#5 Giving each other time and space for yourself and friends. Anyone who lives with their significant other understands what I mean. Spending 100% of your time with your significant other while you are not at work can get on your nerves. It is really important that you make time not only for your friends, but for yourself. In my first point, I said that making each other your number one priority is really important. But there is one exception: yourself. You are always your number one priority, you have been in a relationship with yourself for a very long time. Maybe you just want to relax and get your nails done. Maybe he just wants to go throw a couple baskets in the court for a while. Spending time away from each other only makes you miss that person even more. When Matt and I spend time away from each other, I feel accomplished because I did what I wanted for myself and I can’t wait to get home to see Matt. It makes our time together more special.

#5 Show that you love and want each other constantly. When you are alone with each other, make sure to not only tell each other that you love them, but that you want them. Feeling wanted and needed is something that every human being craves. Reminding each other, whether it is through words or a kiss, do it passionately. Even holding that kiss for an extra couple of seconds can do a lot.

There are a lot of ways of making time or creatively using your time with your significant other. You can even make doing dishes together fun. Or maybe instead of eating dinner in front of the TV on the sofa, you set the dinner table and enjoy each other’s company. Everything that you do with each other doesn’t have to be romantic, however, making that extra effort and emphasizing that time with each other is important to you, is key!

Xo,

Jessica Calkins