Matt Greene…His Thoughts on Beauty

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Beauty…When the word comes to mind for many the first thought is the physical. After all we live in a physical world. A world built of consumerism and appreciating items and physical appearances and not so much the inner beauty of the human race.

People were created to be loved, to appreciate each other, to feel empathically towards others, to care, laugh and love each other is real beauty. Don’t get me wrong beauty can represent the physical of people but I feel like with social media such as Facebook or even Tinder as a human species we are conditioned to only think of beauty in terms of the outer physical appearance.

We stray away from what makes us human and the beauty of human connection and empathic relationships, which is real beauty. So to me beauty is not just the physical but beauty is the relationships we build, the time we spend together, the fulfilling feeling when you help someone live better. That is beauty.

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            I have lived in three different continents, traveled to twenty different countries and all over the USA seeing the good, bad, and ugly. I have worked with people in trailer homes and have worked with some living in the 3% of the world so to me beauty is not and should not be based off of the physical outer shell of human beings but seeing the connections built within.

Seeing the 3% helping and working with the less fortunate is beauty, getting food for a homeless man outside is beauty, making someone laugh is beauty, living a fulfilling life that is not based on a paycheck but based on bettering those around you is the real beauty. So to me beauty is not so much a physical word but it describes the center of all human connection.

Real beauty is the positive impact you have on those around you and I will always stand by that.

Quotes on Quotes on Quotes

 

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There are so many inspirational people in this world, with a hell of  a lot to say. Athletes, models, presidents, moms, dads, brothers, sisters, teachers, etc. So many people have different outlooks on life, and many have been quoted for these.

I am providing you with a list of my favorite quotes of ALL time. These quotes range from love thats lost, love thats found, life mottos, friendships, and striving for success.

I hope that from this post, you do not just learn some new quotes from some different famous people. What I want is to come to a conclusion as to what you live by, who you want to be, and why you love who you love.

It sounds strange, but I believe that we all have different life motto’s. I know that I do. Why do we make some of the decisions we make? Who do we look up to? Why do some things bother us, while some things don’t? Why do we choose to disagree with people at certain points in our life?

We have values. Goals. Dreams. Fears.

Like us, these people have these dreams, these goals, and these fears. They were able to put these forces in their lives into words. Into quotes. Into mottos.

These are the quotes that we see all over social media, newspapers, and music.

::::::::Here is my list of favorites::::::::

1. Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do, so throw off the bowlines, sail away from safe harbor, catch the trade winds in your sails.  Explore, Dream, Discover. –Mark Twain

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2. Life is 10% what happens to me and 90% of how I react to it. –Charles Swindoll

3. When I was 5 years old, my mother always told me that happiness was the key to life.  When I went to school, they asked me what I wanted to be when I grew up.  I wrote down ‘happy’.  They told me I didn’t understand the assignment, and I told them they didn’t understand life. –John Lennon

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4. I’m selfish, impatient and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle. But if you can’t handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don’t deserve me at my best.Marilyn Monroe

5. I love you without knowing how, or when, or from where. I love you simply, without problems or pride: I love you in this way because I do not know any other way of loving but this, in which there is no I or you, so intimate that your hand upon my chest is my hand, so intimate that when I fall asleep your eyes close.— Pablo Neruda, 100  Love Sonnets

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6. Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter, and those who matter don’t mind. — Robert Frost

7. In three words I can sum up everything I’ve learned about life: it goes on.― Bernard M. Baruch

8. If you tell the truth, you don’t have to remember anything. –Mark Twain

These are eight of my favorite quotes, not because they were said by some truly inspirational people, but because, like others, these get me through life.

I hope that one day I am able to inspire people like they have inspired me.

30th Act of Kindness

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I understand that this is the last day of our 30 days of kindness. I also understand that this is not where the kindness ends. We did this challenge not only to help people, but to inspire those around us to do something nice as well.

Kindness truly is contagious. It is obvious that from day one in our challenge, people were moved by our kind acts, and passed it on to others. I have to say that one of my favorite acts throughout this whole process was the “Chick FIl A” drive through act.

Not sure if many of you kept up with this challenge from the start, but the Chick Fil A act was where we payed for the next three cars behind us. We started a trend where every car paid for the car behind them. As we sat there, creeping from our car, we could tell how surprised and happy people were to have received a free meal.

This process has been so rewarding in itself. Yes, we did this to help other people. To make their days better someway or somehow. But, having said that…I feel that it was very rewarding for us. We walked away, every day, with huge smiles on our face. Knowing that we impacted peoples days, whether it was a free meal or a simple hello, was fantastic.

Not only that, but friendships were made. I have met so many new people throughout this process. The older couple at the diner? Plan on meeting them for lunch sometime soon..The girl I paid for at Rifkin? She wants to buy me lunch. Every time we did something for something, we didn’t expect anything in return. We just walked away smiling, knowing that we helped in some way.

So here is our final act of kindness.

Today I texted the people who mean to most to me. I texted them telling them how important they were to me. I have found that life is too short not to tell the people you love how much you love them. So many times we get caught up in life, and our own problems, that we are too busy to be there for the people who care about us the most.

So I want you to just take a minute and text, call, or tell these people in person how important they are to you. What makes them important to you. Why do you love them? It’s so simple, but it sticks.

This final act of kindness is the most simple. But it is the most  thoughtful.

Have a good day, everybody.

29th Act of Kindness

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I noticed that my roommates have been super stressed out lately, with soccer and school and everything in between. They come home from classes and go straight to soccer, leaving no time for relaxation. 

This morning was the first morning where we could all hang out with each other, so my boyfriend and I decided that we would make breakfast for all of them. I know that if I were them I would love to wake up to the smell of bacon and pancakes. 

Sooooo, we went to the nearest grocery store and got all the ingredients for a perfect breakfast. Eggs, bacon, pancakes, orange juice! So many yummy things. 

We came home and got right to work. He made the eggs and pancakes while I focused on my favorite part…. THE BACON!! 

My roommates obviously started smelling the heavenly smell coming from downstairs, so they came running….with big smiles on their faces! 

We definitely feasted, and they enjoyed every minute of it. 

They thanked my boyfriend and I as they rushed out the door for, shockingly, another soccer game. But they sure were pumped with their bellies full of yummy foods!

I just wanted to do something simple and easy for them. They deserved it. 🙂

28th Random Act

28th act ronaldRonald DeBernard was diagnosed with PNET brain cancer Easter Sunday of 2013.   PNET stands for a Primitive neuroectodermal tumor. It is a very rare tumor that is typically found in children and young adults under the age of 25. Ronald was 25 years old when he was diagnosed, and 26 when he passed away on the 5th of June.

Right from the start, the cancer was very aggressive and hard on Ronald, as well as his family. Doctors didn’t really have an idea on how to treat it because it has rarely been seen in someone at Ronalds age. Treating the brain at his age was completely different than treating a 5 year old child with the same cancer.

Originally, the doctors told Ronald and his family that he would only have 2-3 months to live, due to how aggressive the cancer was and how little they could treat it. This didn’t prevent Ronald or his family from doing anything and everything to fix it. He was always up for a cure. He was willing to fight for his life. Those short 3 months turned into 14 months of a strong fight.

It was December when the tumor started developing more in Ronalds brain. With a 3rd of his brain already removed, the doctors couldn’t operate again. He started to grow very weak. In the morning he would struggle to get out of the bed. He also had a lot of trouble walking around. Slowly, his body started shutting down. He couldn’t talk well at all, and was tired all the time.

As things started to get harder and harder for Ronald, days became shorter and shorter for him. All he wanted to do was rest his eyes because he was too tired to do anything. Its at times like these that true family and friends are recognized. Siblings, cousins, niece’s and nephews all stepped up to help out with things. His family was there for him every step of the way, even when they needed others to be there for them. They stayed strong even though they were hurting on the inside as well.

My best friend and roommate Priscilla, is Ronald’s niece. Her mom is Ronald’s sister. Her grandmother is his mother. So many people who were so close to him were in a lot of pain, and thats when the community stepped up and wanted to help.

Its the little things that people did that really stood out to Ronald’s family. His friends would come and sit at his bedside while he slept, and would speak of all the memories they shared. There was laughing, there was crying, and along the way, friendships were made that were very unexpected. People traveled all the way from California and even Costa Rica to see Ronald in his last few days.

Nobody wanted to grieve his sickness and instead they celebrated the wonderful life that he had. He brightened so many people’s days, and made a mark on this world that we live in. You could say he was quite the intellectual human being.

I sit here smiling writing about this because I know how important Ronald was to his family, his friends, and frankly, everyone around him. Even though I didn’t have the pleasure of knowing him as well as everyone else, I feel that his story should not go unnoticed.

After Ronald passed, the surrounding community sent flowers, dinners, cards, and just stopped by to keep Ronalds family some company.

Ronald’s sister, after everything happened, shared a pretty meaningful quote with her daughter, and my best friend, Priscilla.

She said, “True friends are recognized in some of the darkest moments, in prison, and in a hospital”

So many people were there for them when they needed it the most, and that never went unnoticed.

Priscilla was talking to me the other day and she said, “Its really a shock that something so beautiful, like the friendships I have made, have come from something so terrible. “

Ronald was able to bring so many people together through such a dark time for him, and that, in my opinion, is one heck of a random act of kindness.

 

27th Act of Kindness

23ee306628ee075e97d319fe0e6292abAt my school we have this cafe’ called Rifkin. Everyone makes frequent stops there in between classes to grab something quick to eat before their next class is scheduled. It is a pretty popular spot because the food ranges anywhere from sandwiches to burgers to salads. There are also chips and drinks and candy and what not. 

I like to stay on campus for most of the day because I have a little bit of a walk to get back to my house. I would rather just stay on campus, sit at the cafe’, and get some work done. It seems like a lot of other people do that same thing. 

Well, I know that a lot of people have been having trouble getting “rifkin money” added to their swipes. Our swipes are what get us into buildings, events, and the cafeteria and places like that. I usually just purchase flex dollars because they work only at Rifkin, where I usually am. 

Anyway, like I said, a lot of people have been having trouble. I am not sure if the system has been down or what, but so many people haven’t been able to purchase the food they order because of this problem. 

Well, today was like any other day. I went to Rifkin to order my usual plain bagel with butter. I went and got my naked juice and waited for my bagel to get ready. There was a girl behind me in line who ordered a sub and grabbed chips and a gatorade. When I finished paying for my chips I noticed that she was having trouble paying for hers. I offered to pay for her lunch because I knew so many people were having issues lately. 

She was so appreciative and told me that she would repay me when her card started working! I could tell she was really stressed, probably with classes and her card not working, so I figured it was just a nice thing to do. I would really appreciate it if someone did that for me as well. 

I enjoyed this random act because it really was random. I didn’t have anything planned, I was just helping a stranger out. 

I hope that that led her to do something nice for someone else today, as well. 

26th Act of Kindness…WOW

8461b278f9368fdec4ba106f871cd1f6WOW our random acts of kindness are flying by, it feels like. I am so happy that we have been able to keep up with this, and make a difference in people’s lives. Whether it be a simple hello, or raising money, everything you do can impact another person. 

With that being said, I hope that these posts have not only given you some ideas on how to help people, but I also want for them to inspire you to keep the kindness going, and pay it forward. 

On Sunday, I wrote about how my friend and I paid for an older couples bill at a diner. That same day, we didn’t even realize this at the time, but we held the door open for a man in a wheelchair. He was being wheeled around by a friend or family member, and we could tell the guy was having trouble maneuvering around the restaurant. There were two doors that  led to the outside so I grabbed the one door, and Priscilla grabbed the other. We were just trying to help out, and didn’t even think twice about grabbing the door for them. 

As he was passing by he quickly whispered to the both of us… “Wow, thank you so much, you don’t understand how frustrating it is getting in and out of places. That little gesture just made my day a whole lot simpler!” 

It was such a small thing that we did, but it went a long way and brightened someones day. 

When we first started our thirty days of kindness, I thought to myself that it would be kind of hard keeping up with it all. I am back at school and Laurie is running a restaurant while launching her jewelry line. Now, I realize that we don’t have to make these extravagant gestures to get the attention of those around us. The smallest things count, and these 26 days have been a total blast. 

24th Act of Kindness

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Todays act of kindness was probably one of my favorites. It wasn’t that it was one of this extravagant acts, but the reaction that we got was amazing. 

Like I said in my other post, I just got to school on Friday. Tomorrow I start my last first day of classes, which is so weird. If i start talking about it too much I get emotional, so I need to stop. 

This morning when my roommate Priscilla and I woke up we were both craving pancakes. We did not feel like making them ourselves so we decided to go to this local diner down the road from our house. As we were sitting there, gossiping about anything and everything, we noticed the most adorable elderly couple sit in the booth behind us. 

We could tell, that even with age, they still were very much in love with each other. They sat on the same side, him with his arm around her, like they were in high school and on their first date. 

Priscilla and I were so taken back by how cute they were that we just HAD to buy their breakfast for them. 

The thing about this diner is that they give you your check and you go up and pay at a register, so we didn’t know how much their check was going to end up being. 

We still really wanted to make their day even better, so when we went up to the cashier we pulled out a twenty and told her to put it towards their check and tip! We saw them walking up behind us and made a run for it so that we could see their reactions without being too in their faces about it. 

As we were hiding in Priscilla’s car, we noticed the couple coming towards us, with the biggest smiles on their faces. 

Couple- “Are you the two girls that paid for our breakfast?”

US- YES!

Couple- “I don’t even know what to say. Who are you? Do we know you? Why did you do that?”

US- “We just wanted to do a random act of kindness for the both of you!”

Couple- “WOW! Do you want a free pizza? Will you be here next week?” 

***so many questions****

US- “Probably not! But thank you so much for the pizza gift card that is so nice!” 

Couple- “WOW I just do not know what to say, thank you so much, you girls are beautiful!”

Let me tell you….it was the sweetest reaction I have ever seen. Reactions like that are what makes it feel so good to help others. 

As we were driving away Priscilla looked over at me and said, “That just made my day!” 

AND IT DID. 

 

Kindness Confetti

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Like any other day, I was on Pinterest checking out what was new out there. New fashion, new recipe’s… anything.. you name it. I was scrolling through, not really looking for anything when this cute quote flashed across the screen. 

I thought it was fitting that I saw this because, well, our 30 days of Kindness are quickly coming to a close. 

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You think to yourself, “Oh I wish it was that easy” but it really is. 

Simple smiles, gestures, I love you’s, hugs, kisses, thank you’s, handshakes. These are all ways of spreading kindness. If we actually lived in a world where happiness could be thrown around like that of confetti, there would be no war, hatred, or disappointment. 

Do me a favor.

Sprinkle a little happiness confetti wherever you go today.

19th Act of Kindness

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Like I said before, even the smallest things count.

My friend Sam Calkins, and daughter of Laurie Calkins (my boss!) just started a new job at a restaurant in Rehoboth Beach, Delaware, as a PR floor manager. She is awesome when it comes to dealing with people, so I am really excited for her with this new environment.

Today, as she was arriving at work, she bumped into a couple of the girls that she works with. They were all walking into the restaurant when a couple of the girls noticed that the usual guy who dropped off the beer and alcohol dropped all of it everywhere. He was scrambling to pick it all up, so they ran over to help him.

As you can see in the picture, these girls are in dresses, and they were over there heavy lifting for this guy. Sam caught it on camera and sent me the picture right away, because she felt that this act of kindness should not go unnoticed.

I am sure that the guy truly appreciated that they helped him, and his day got just a little bit better 🙂

Obviously they didn’t have to help him, but they felt it was the right thing to do. They went out of their way to help a random stranger, and that is just awesome!

YOU GO GIRLS, you deserve a pat on the back.