Have you just ever felt like this?

We all have days where we feel like the world is caving in on us, don’t we?  Sometimes,  I feel like I am the only one. To be honest, usually I am “happy-go-lucky” all the time. In fact, my husband always looks at me in times of trouble and says “you just don’t have a care in the world”!  Always perplexed with him looking at me like that, I just node, laugh and say no! I have always looked at things as if they were meant to happen and it is all in how you handle it. I am very good under pressure, I always have been but this week, I just want to pull my hair out.

Here, let me explain…

1. Leaving a house I grew up in since I was a child.

 2. Being self-employed, the bank is driving me crazy.

  3. A good friend will not speak to me and I don’t know

what I did?

4. My daughter is getting married…

5. Everyone wants something from me.

6. My house is a cluster f@%k with furniture, lighting

and accessories for the new house everywhere.

That is why I feel like this…

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But…

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These are all the great things that come out of the bad…

1. My daughter and her fiancé are moving into the house I grew up in…

2. We are blessed beyond belief to have what we have…

3. Maybe that friend is not worth the aggregation if they

do not have the time or patience to explain why… a blessing in disguise…

4. My daughter is getting married to her perfect guy…

5. At least someone wants something from you and you are not alone…

6. Well, that I need a magic wand, it is still a cluster f@%k…

There is always a silver lining in life. Don’t forget to remember that when your hands are in your hair and you want to scream and hit your head against the wall:)

5 Things

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On a day like today, all I want to do it cuddle up, drink hot chocolate, and watch movies all day. Unfortunately, the weekend is over, and it is back to the real world.

It is always hard getting up on Monday morning, and I of all people complain about it..but what we all need to realize is that we are all lucky to have another day worth living.

Here is a list of ten things we should all be thankful for, even on the worst of days.

1. It is such a wonderful blessing to wake up another day, and take that first breath of fresh air. To look outside and see life everywhere is a true reward and we always seem to forget that.

2. We always seem to “hate our ex’s” but in reality, they have only made us the people we are today. Instead of bashing them and regretting the life you had with them, thank them for helping you grow and better understand who you would like to be with in the future.

3. Those annoying parents that you always seem to complain about? Those people brought you into this world, and understandably, at times they might be rough around the edges, but they love you. Just remember, it could be worse. I always find myself making snarky comments to my parents, and feeling awful about it later. Life is too short to hurt the people that you love, so never take them for granted.

4. The mistakes you cannot seem to get past. Certain mistakes that you have made in the past might have brought out certain characteristics that you might dislike or like about yourself. Those mistakes have molded you into the person that you are, regardless of how much you hate the sound of that. Mistakes have to happen or else you would never grow up or mature.

5. The silly fights that always get under your skin. As annoying as it may be, a little fighting every once in a while shows that you do have feelings, and that you do care. If nobody ever fought, we would live in a world of lies. People need to disagree. People need to have differences. Because from those disagreements and differences comes resolution, and resolution rocks!

Life is far better than I, and many others, deserve. Keeping track of what I am thankful for helps me put a lot of things into perspective. Hopefully from this, you too, can reminisce on what and who you are thankful for.

People Watching

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You are probably looking at the title and are thinking…what the heck? Yes. People watching.

People watching is by far one of the best things in the world when you are feeling stressed out or bored with your own life. I live near DC and I know there are a bunch of different personalities roaming around on a daily basis. I love this. So many different styles, conversations, and friendships I have seen, and in the least creepy way possible. I swear.

You notice the mom with the four children, all under ten, who is completely stressed out but still remains to have a smile on her face, because she knows that the only way to get through the day is by staying positive. The mom who is superwomen in disguise. The mom who can fight crime anywhere she goes. You cannot help but try to think about what she is thinking. Does she want to scream? How does she do it and still look good!? What museum are they going to?

Then you are fixed on the older couple, sitting on the bench across from you. The one who will not let go of each others hands.You can tell that they are so in love, and you only wish that you could have something like that at the age that they do. You think to yourself about your future. Where you will be in ten, twenty, even thirty years. Who you will be married to and how many children you will have. Will you be as in love as they appear to be? You want to be 85 and holding hands with your soul mate because that is what people deserve. You notice you are getting caught in your own head and decide to switch to another scene.

The man who is in a hurry to get somewhere. But where? Does he have a job interview? Is he late for a meeting? A date? Where is he off to, and in such a hurry. You want to follow him because, well, thats probably not a good idea. But this man seems important. In his slim fitting yet very dapper suit, and his leather dress shoes, and his slicked back hair. His skinny black tie. His cell phone to his ear. He is very important.

Then you notice the group of girls, laughing in a circle. More importantly, you notice the girl, who isn’t completely outside, but seems disinterested in a way. A girl who is half laughing, but something else is catching her eye… You look to see what is catching her attention because she almost looks sad in a way. She is fixed on a couple, who seems to be very interested in one another. She cannot take her eyes off of them, and you cant either. Why is she staring at them? Does she love him? Does she love her? Is she envious?

All you want is to be able to read these peoples minds, but in a way, you love not knowing. You love that you can sit there and just imagine. Imagine what these people are going through. Get inside their heads and their thoughts, and just make up stories.

I have always been a sucker for people watching. It has always helped me to take a step away from my life, and think about others. Not having to worry about yourself, or your own problems is the best remedy you could have.

So, try it. I urge you to. It really is awesome.

10 YEARS FROM NOW

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Today my roommates and I were sitting in one of our rooms, goofing off as usual,  when one of us decided to get serious and ask where  each of us wanted to be in 10 years. That is such a loaded question, but then we all got to thinking. Where do we want to be?

Will we be married or single?

Will we have children?

Where will we be living?

I was thinking to myself during this whole conversation and I came to the conclusion that I really don’t know where I want to be.

There are small things that I would love to happen, like being married and starting to have children, but I do not know where I want to live, or what I will be doing. I think that life is about enjoying the now, and taking things slow. On the other side of things, I believe that if you feel confident enough in something, then you need to go for it. Take that step. Don’t step out of your comfort zone, leap out of.

Life is too short to plan out all the small things. If that is the case, then there would be no room for surprises. If you want to start a new hobby, start it. If you want to become a singer, do it.

Like the quote above, “Once in a while, blow your own damn mind”

It may surprise you what you are good out. Maybe you can be the next Christina Aguilera. Or the next Mia Hamm. Maybe you are an awesome photographer, or great dancer. You never know unless you try, and life is too short not to.

So, where will I be ten years from now? Hopefully married, hopefully starting to have kids, hopefully working at my dream job.

But I will continue to do things that make me happy.

Matt Greene…His Thoughts on Beauty

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Beauty…When the word comes to mind for many the first thought is the physical. After all we live in a physical world. A world built of consumerism and appreciating items and physical appearances and not so much the inner beauty of the human race.

People were created to be loved, to appreciate each other, to feel empathically towards others, to care, laugh and love each other is real beauty. Don’t get me wrong beauty can represent the physical of people but I feel like with social media such as Facebook or even Tinder as a human species we are conditioned to only think of beauty in terms of the outer physical appearance.

We stray away from what makes us human and the beauty of human connection and empathic relationships, which is real beauty. So to me beauty is not just the physical but beauty is the relationships we build, the time we spend together, the fulfilling feeling when you help someone live better. That is beauty.

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            I have lived in three different continents, traveled to twenty different countries and all over the USA seeing the good, bad, and ugly. I have worked with people in trailer homes and have worked with some living in the 3% of the world so to me beauty is not and should not be based off of the physical outer shell of human beings but seeing the connections built within.

Seeing the 3% helping and working with the less fortunate is beauty, getting food for a homeless man outside is beauty, making someone laugh is beauty, living a fulfilling life that is not based on a paycheck but based on bettering those around you is the real beauty. So to me beauty is not so much a physical word but it describes the center of all human connection.

Real beauty is the positive impact you have on those around you and I will always stand by that.

30th Act of Kindness

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I understand that this is the last day of our 30 days of kindness. I also understand that this is not where the kindness ends. We did this challenge not only to help people, but to inspire those around us to do something nice as well.

Kindness truly is contagious. It is obvious that from day one in our challenge, people were moved by our kind acts, and passed it on to others. I have to say that one of my favorite acts throughout this whole process was the “Chick FIl A” drive through act.

Not sure if many of you kept up with this challenge from the start, but the Chick Fil A act was where we payed for the next three cars behind us. We started a trend where every car paid for the car behind them. As we sat there, creeping from our car, we could tell how surprised and happy people were to have received a free meal.

This process has been so rewarding in itself. Yes, we did this to help other people. To make their days better someway or somehow. But, having said that…I feel that it was very rewarding for us. We walked away, every day, with huge smiles on our face. Knowing that we impacted peoples days, whether it was a free meal or a simple hello, was fantastic.

Not only that, but friendships were made. I have met so many new people throughout this process. The older couple at the diner? Plan on meeting them for lunch sometime soon..The girl I paid for at Rifkin? She wants to buy me lunch. Every time we did something for something, we didn’t expect anything in return. We just walked away smiling, knowing that we helped in some way.

So here is our final act of kindness.

Today I texted the people who mean to most to me. I texted them telling them how important they were to me. I have found that life is too short not to tell the people you love how much you love them. So many times we get caught up in life, and our own problems, that we are too busy to be there for the people who care about us the most.

So I want you to just take a minute and text, call, or tell these people in person how important they are to you. What makes them important to you. Why do you love them? It’s so simple, but it sticks.

This final act of kindness is the most simple. But it is the most  thoughtful.

Have a good day, everybody.

28th Random Act

28th act ronaldRonald DeBernard was diagnosed with PNET brain cancer Easter Sunday of 2013.   PNET stands for a Primitive neuroectodermal tumor. It is a very rare tumor that is typically found in children and young adults under the age of 25. Ronald was 25 years old when he was diagnosed, and 26 when he passed away on the 5th of June.

Right from the start, the cancer was very aggressive and hard on Ronald, as well as his family. Doctors didn’t really have an idea on how to treat it because it has rarely been seen in someone at Ronalds age. Treating the brain at his age was completely different than treating a 5 year old child with the same cancer.

Originally, the doctors told Ronald and his family that he would only have 2-3 months to live, due to how aggressive the cancer was and how little they could treat it. This didn’t prevent Ronald or his family from doing anything and everything to fix it. He was always up for a cure. He was willing to fight for his life. Those short 3 months turned into 14 months of a strong fight.

It was December when the tumor started developing more in Ronalds brain. With a 3rd of his brain already removed, the doctors couldn’t operate again. He started to grow very weak. In the morning he would struggle to get out of the bed. He also had a lot of trouble walking around. Slowly, his body started shutting down. He couldn’t talk well at all, and was tired all the time.

As things started to get harder and harder for Ronald, days became shorter and shorter for him. All he wanted to do was rest his eyes because he was too tired to do anything. Its at times like these that true family and friends are recognized. Siblings, cousins, niece’s and nephews all stepped up to help out with things. His family was there for him every step of the way, even when they needed others to be there for them. They stayed strong even though they were hurting on the inside as well.

My best friend and roommate Priscilla, is Ronald’s niece. Her mom is Ronald’s sister. Her grandmother is his mother. So many people who were so close to him were in a lot of pain, and thats when the community stepped up and wanted to help.

Its the little things that people did that really stood out to Ronald’s family. His friends would come and sit at his bedside while he slept, and would speak of all the memories they shared. There was laughing, there was crying, and along the way, friendships were made that were very unexpected. People traveled all the way from California and even Costa Rica to see Ronald in his last few days.

Nobody wanted to grieve his sickness and instead they celebrated the wonderful life that he had. He brightened so many people’s days, and made a mark on this world that we live in. You could say he was quite the intellectual human being.

I sit here smiling writing about this because I know how important Ronald was to his family, his friends, and frankly, everyone around him. Even though I didn’t have the pleasure of knowing him as well as everyone else, I feel that his story should not go unnoticed.

After Ronald passed, the surrounding community sent flowers, dinners, cards, and just stopped by to keep Ronalds family some company.

Ronald’s sister, after everything happened, shared a pretty meaningful quote with her daughter, and my best friend, Priscilla.

She said, “True friends are recognized in some of the darkest moments, in prison, and in a hospital”

So many people were there for them when they needed it the most, and that never went unnoticed.

Priscilla was talking to me the other day and she said, “Its really a shock that something so beautiful, like the friendships I have made, have come from something so terrible. “

Ronald was able to bring so many people together through such a dark time for him, and that, in my opinion, is one heck of a random act of kindness.

 

VACATION BABY

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 Well….

I just got back from the Dominican Republic with my wonderful family and friends. We went to celebrate my sisters wedding, but we turned it into a little vacation, spanning from Tuesday the 12th to Sunday the 17th. 

When I say that I had the time of my life, I really mean it. 

This place was absolutely gorgeous. We stayed in the Paradisus Palma Real Golf and Spa Resort. It definitely had more of a family feel to it, but it was just what we all needed. Our relaxing days on the beach turned into sleepless nights, dancing and having a blast. Lots of the days consisted of laying on the beach and drinking in the pool. 

The ages ranged from about 13 years old to late 50’s, but everybody always stuck together! 

The wedding took place at a restaurant called the Jellyfish, which was a couple miles down the road from the actual resort that we stayed at. My sister wanted it to be more remote and away from all the clutter clatter of everything taking place at the resort. 

BOYYYY……. Did she pick a great place or what?!

It was breathtaking. She rented out the whole restaurant, which was right on the beach. The ceremony was on the beach, while dinner was held inside the restaurant. After dinner took place, speeches were given, songs were sung, and love was shared. It was the most beautiful wedding that I have ever seen. 

It is hard to explain how wonderful this past week was. So many memories have been made. From the dancing, to beach soccer, to hilarious jokes, we all remained to have an amazing time. Friendships were made, tears were shared, and vows were given. It is definitely hard getting back to the real world, where I can’t yell “WHO WANTS SOME MAMA JUANA!” everywhere I go. 

I am so happy for my sister and her new husband, because they have a love unlike any I have ever seen. Through the good times, and not so good times, they have remained to love one another more and more every day. 

On top of that, Bare and Me provided each of the Bridesmaids with some druzy earrings to wear for the wedding. They looked absolutely beautiful with the colors of the wedding!

Jellyfish Restaurant

Paradisus Palma Real

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