Simple Thinking

This past year has definitely been a roller coaster of events for myself along with my loved ones. We have experienced great loss, and in the most unexpected and worst possible way. But there are so many things that I learned throughout the whole process.

1. Stop Blaming Everyone Around You

Sometimes, things are meant to happen. As awful as that sounds and as much as I hate to admit it, everything happens for a reason. Bad things happen to good people, and although I cant possibly wrap my head around the concept, I have to believe that there are better places out there. Having said that, this past year I learned that I cant blame the bad events that happen on the people who are closest to me. I find that I am always trying to find the shortcut out of things instead of dealing with it head on. Nobody can ever tell the future. So I need to be there for them, like they have always been there for me.

2. Love Myself

Yeah, I have made my fair share of mistakes. But this past year has helped me to realize that I need to forgive myself, and move on. I may not have to forget about what happened, but I should always stay true to myself and love myself for all that I am. Now that I can truly love myself, I can fully let others into my life, the way it should be. It seems like such a simple concept, if you think about it. But really think about it. How many of you are harder on yourselves than any of the others around you? How many times have you made a mistake and not been able to shake it off? I know I have. This sounds like a big fat cliche’, but in order to love someone else, you need to love yourself first.

3. Change is Good

This is definitely one of the hardest things I have had to find the truth in. I know that, without a doubt, nobody should make you change who you are, and you should never try to change someone else, but we are all a work in progress. By allowing yourself to make mistakes and to grow from them, you will be able to be the best version of yourself. Not anybody else, but yourself. You are going to have bad days, and you are going to have great days, and there will always be people there to go through it with you.

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Be inspired…

Do what you love and love what you do…

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Sometimes without even knowing it you are causing a ripple effect with dreaming your dream and just doing it.

I myself, hope that I do this with my children. Working hard in life in any manner builds character and just tells your spirit you can do anything if you try.

I can honesty say, I love what I do everyday.  I may be a little stressed out at times or want to just take a stay vacation and say “calgon, take me away”!

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You younger generation have no idea what I am talking about but the “hip older generation does”…

If I did not design jewels everyday, I think I would have missed my calling. I know why I am here and what I am supposed to do,  I think?

Have you just ever felt like this?

We all have days where we feel like the world is caving in on us, don’t we?  Sometimes,  I feel like I am the only one. To be honest, usually I am “happy-go-lucky” all the time. In fact, my husband always looks at me in times of trouble and says “you just don’t have a care in the world”!  Always perplexed with him looking at me like that, I just node, laugh and say no! I have always looked at things as if they were meant to happen and it is all in how you handle it. I am very good under pressure, I always have been but this week, I just want to pull my hair out.

Here, let me explain…

1. Leaving a house I grew up in since I was a child.

 2. Being self-employed, the bank is driving me crazy.

  3. A good friend will not speak to me and I don’t know

what I did?

4. My daughter is getting married…

5. Everyone wants something from me.

6. My house is a cluster f@%k with furniture, lighting

and accessories for the new house everywhere.

That is why I feel like this…

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But…

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These are all the great things that come out of the bad…

1. My daughter and her fiancé are moving into the house I grew up in…

2. We are blessed beyond belief to have what we have…

3. Maybe that friend is not worth the aggregation if they

do not have the time or patience to explain why… a blessing in disguise…

4. My daughter is getting married to her perfect guy…

5. At least someone wants something from you and you are not alone…

6. Well, that I need a magic wand, it is still a cluster f@%k…

There is always a silver lining in life. Don’t forget to remember that when your hands are in your hair and you want to scream and hit your head against the wall:)

5 Things

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On a day like today, all I want to do it cuddle up, drink hot chocolate, and watch movies all day. Unfortunately, the weekend is over, and it is back to the real world.

It is always hard getting up on Monday morning, and I of all people complain about it..but what we all need to realize is that we are all lucky to have another day worth living.

Here is a list of ten things we should all be thankful for, even on the worst of days.

1. It is such a wonderful blessing to wake up another day, and take that first breath of fresh air. To look outside and see life everywhere is a true reward and we always seem to forget that.

2. We always seem to “hate our ex’s” but in reality, they have only made us the people we are today. Instead of bashing them and regretting the life you had with them, thank them for helping you grow and better understand who you would like to be with in the future.

3. Those annoying parents that you always seem to complain about? Those people brought you into this world, and understandably, at times they might be rough around the edges, but they love you. Just remember, it could be worse. I always find myself making snarky comments to my parents, and feeling awful about it later. Life is too short to hurt the people that you love, so never take them for granted.

4. The mistakes you cannot seem to get past. Certain mistakes that you have made in the past might have brought out certain characteristics that you might dislike or like about yourself. Those mistakes have molded you into the person that you are, regardless of how much you hate the sound of that. Mistakes have to happen or else you would never grow up or mature.

5. The silly fights that always get under your skin. As annoying as it may be, a little fighting every once in a while shows that you do have feelings, and that you do care. If nobody ever fought, we would live in a world of lies. People need to disagree. People need to have differences. Because from those disagreements and differences comes resolution, and resolution rocks!

Life is far better than I, and many others, deserve. Keeping track of what I am thankful for helps me put a lot of things into perspective. Hopefully from this, you too, can reminisce on what and who you are thankful for.

Matt Greene…His Thoughts on Beauty

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Beauty…When the word comes to mind for many the first thought is the physical. After all we live in a physical world. A world built of consumerism and appreciating items and physical appearances and not so much the inner beauty of the human race.

People were created to be loved, to appreciate each other, to feel empathically towards others, to care, laugh and love each other is real beauty. Don’t get me wrong beauty can represent the physical of people but I feel like with social media such as Facebook or even Tinder as a human species we are conditioned to only think of beauty in terms of the outer physical appearance.

We stray away from what makes us human and the beauty of human connection and empathic relationships, which is real beauty. So to me beauty is not just the physical but beauty is the relationships we build, the time we spend together, the fulfilling feeling when you help someone live better. That is beauty.

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            I have lived in three different continents, traveled to twenty different countries and all over the USA seeing the good, bad, and ugly. I have worked with people in trailer homes and have worked with some living in the 3% of the world so to me beauty is not and should not be based off of the physical outer shell of human beings but seeing the connections built within.

Seeing the 3% helping and working with the less fortunate is beauty, getting food for a homeless man outside is beauty, making someone laugh is beauty, living a fulfilling life that is not based on a paycheck but based on bettering those around you is the real beauty. So to me beauty is not so much a physical word but it describes the center of all human connection.

Real beauty is the positive impact you have on those around you and I will always stand by that.

Quotes on Quotes on Quotes

 

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There are so many inspirational people in this world, with a hell of  a lot to say. Athletes, models, presidents, moms, dads, brothers, sisters, teachers, etc. So many people have different outlooks on life, and many have been quoted for these.

I am providing you with a list of my favorite quotes of ALL time. These quotes range from love thats lost, love thats found, life mottos, friendships, and striving for success.

I hope that from this post, you do not just learn some new quotes from some different famous people. What I want is to come to a conclusion as to what you live by, who you want to be, and why you love who you love.

It sounds strange, but I believe that we all have different life motto’s. I know that I do. Why do we make some of the decisions we make? Who do we look up to? Why do some things bother us, while some things don’t? Why do we choose to disagree with people at certain points in our life?

We have values. Goals. Dreams. Fears.

Like us, these people have these dreams, these goals, and these fears. They were able to put these forces in their lives into words. Into quotes. Into mottos.

These are the quotes that we see all over social media, newspapers, and music.

::::::::Here is my list of favorites::::::::

1. Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do, so throw off the bowlines, sail away from safe harbor, catch the trade winds in your sails.  Explore, Dream, Discover. –Mark Twain

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2. Life is 10% what happens to me and 90% of how I react to it. –Charles Swindoll

3. When I was 5 years old, my mother always told me that happiness was the key to life.  When I went to school, they asked me what I wanted to be when I grew up.  I wrote down ‘happy’.  They told me I didn’t understand the assignment, and I told them they didn’t understand life. –John Lennon

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4. I’m selfish, impatient and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle. But if you can’t handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don’t deserve me at my best.Marilyn Monroe

5. I love you without knowing how, or when, or from where. I love you simply, without problems or pride: I love you in this way because I do not know any other way of loving but this, in which there is no I or you, so intimate that your hand upon my chest is my hand, so intimate that when I fall asleep your eyes close.— Pablo Neruda, 100  Love Sonnets

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6. Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter, and those who matter don’t mind. — Robert Frost

7. In three words I can sum up everything I’ve learned about life: it goes on.― Bernard M. Baruch

8. If you tell the truth, you don’t have to remember anything. –Mark Twain

These are eight of my favorite quotes, not because they were said by some truly inspirational people, but because, like others, these get me through life.

I hope that one day I am able to inspire people like they have inspired me.

30th Act of Kindness

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I understand that this is the last day of our 30 days of kindness. I also understand that this is not where the kindness ends. We did this challenge not only to help people, but to inspire those around us to do something nice as well.

Kindness truly is contagious. It is obvious that from day one in our challenge, people were moved by our kind acts, and passed it on to others. I have to say that one of my favorite acts throughout this whole process was the “Chick FIl A” drive through act.

Not sure if many of you kept up with this challenge from the start, but the Chick Fil A act was where we payed for the next three cars behind us. We started a trend where every car paid for the car behind them. As we sat there, creeping from our car, we could tell how surprised and happy people were to have received a free meal.

This process has been so rewarding in itself. Yes, we did this to help other people. To make their days better someway or somehow. But, having said that…I feel that it was very rewarding for us. We walked away, every day, with huge smiles on our face. Knowing that we impacted peoples days, whether it was a free meal or a simple hello, was fantastic.

Not only that, but friendships were made. I have met so many new people throughout this process. The older couple at the diner? Plan on meeting them for lunch sometime soon..The girl I paid for at Rifkin? She wants to buy me lunch. Every time we did something for something, we didn’t expect anything in return. We just walked away smiling, knowing that we helped in some way.

So here is our final act of kindness.

Today I texted the people who mean to most to me. I texted them telling them how important they were to me. I have found that life is too short not to tell the people you love how much you love them. So many times we get caught up in life, and our own problems, that we are too busy to be there for the people who care about us the most.

So I want you to just take a minute and text, call, or tell these people in person how important they are to you. What makes them important to you. Why do you love them? It’s so simple, but it sticks.

This final act of kindness is the most simple. But it is the most  thoughtful.

Have a good day, everybody.