WEDDING ETIQUETTE: DO’S AND DON’TS

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Traditionally, there are a few wedding protocols that are associated with planning a wedding. As a bride myself, there are several “rules” that I question throughout the process of planning. There are easy questions and there are questions I feel like I don’t even want to ask out loud. What I have to consistently remind myself of is that this our (Matt and I) big day and though it may seem like it, there aren’t any rules when planning a wedding. Here are some tough questions that I tried to answer 100% honestly.

 

What is the #1 of wedding etiquette?

Do not make your guest’s wait! Not only is it rude to have your guests waiting for you to walk down the aisle, but it also puts a damper on the entire celebration. It does not matter how great the catering is, how entertaining the DJ is, or how beautiful your decorations are…People will certainly not have fun at your wedding if it isn’t a timely production. Momentum is everything when it comes to celebrating at a wedding. Take advantage that is not only the most important element of your wedding, but that it does not cost a thing!

 

Single Guests. How do I tell them that they can’t bring a date?

This is your big day and you want to spend it with people that have had a big influence on your life, right? Right! If you have a strict budget, the easiest cuts to make to your guest lists are the people you don’t know. The only time it is acceptable to bring a date, is if they are in a serious relationship.

 

How do I tell a friend that she is not a bridesmaid?

This is a tough one. Being mindful and compassionate is about all the advice that I can give you. As long as you are honest with them, they should respect your decision.

 

How do I explain the lack of help to my Maid of Honor?

Choosing a Maid of Honor is an extremely hard decision that every bride has to make. Letting them know that you are happy and confident in your decision, will give them a sense of pride. Also, choosing a Maid of Honor is a two-way street. They have to accept the fact that they are responsible for being your right hand, which requires a lot of time, effort, and patience.

 

Is it acceptable to ask for cash as a wedding gift?

Personally, I don’t want the three toasters, matching mugs, and set of wine glasses. However, it is tacky to put on the invitation “Cash Gifts Only!” Letting your immediate family, Maid of Honor, and Best Man know your gift requests is your best bet, because guests will ask them for gift ideas.

 

I have a crazy mother-in-law that is overbearing during the planning of my wedding. How do I confront her?

Fortunately, I do not have this problem. However, I know a lot of brides that have run into this issue and it had put a stitch into the experience of planning their wedding. The important thing is to be respectful, loving, and honest. Letting her know that this is your big day, not hers. Though her opinions and ideas mean a lot to you, you’ve decided to go a different direction in the wedding plans.

Who sits at the bride and groom table?

Whoever you want! This is your big day and you have to remember that there aren’t any rules that you have to follow. Typically, there are three options. 1) Bride and Groom table, where you and your newly married lover share an intimate table. 2) Bride, Groom parents and siblings. 3) Bride, Groom, and Bridal Party.

 

How do I let people know that there will not be a full meal provided at the reception?

Instead of writing “Ceremony at _:__ time and reception to follow, simply write “Ceremony at _:__ with drinks and h’ordeuvres to follow. Personally, our wedding isn’t formal whatsoever. I didn’t like the idea of a plated dinner. To create a relaxed atmosphere, I wanted to have an extended cocktail hour. (Finger food, carving station, and open bar) Perfect! Like I said, there isn’t a rule book for planning weddings, just suggestions.

 

Who is invited to the rehearsal dinner?

Anybody you want! For me, I am inviting my family, the bridal party, and out-of-town guests.

 

These are only a few questions that I could think of. Let me know in the comments below if you can come up with any other questions for me!

 

Xo,

Jessica Calkins

On My Way Down the Aisle: Bridesmaids Dresses

Thinking about walking down the aisle to marry my best friend, is quite nerve racking. I’m sure there are a lot of girls out there that feel the same way. Every time I think about each step I will make towards Matt, my eyes start to tear up. When the song that Matt and I chose to walk down the aisle to plays on my Pandora Station at work, my eyes start to tear up. When I think about my Daddy walking me down the aisle arm and arm, my eyes start to tear up. But the one thing that I am excited about is having my best girlfriends stand by me while I make the biggest decision of my life, my bridesmaids.

My bridesmaids Mary, Samantha, Adrienne, Delaney, and Kristin will stand by my side on September 13th this year and I could not feel more blessed to have them a part of my wedding. Something that we are all excited about are the bridesmaid dresses! After choosing my dress, it’s now time for us to shop for them… Bridesmaid dresses should never upstage a bride, but enhance the brides dress and the theme of the wedding. There are different paths you can take when choosing the dresses.

Figure out everyone’s budget for the dress. Nowadays, you can either BUY or RENT a dress. One of my favorite websites for Buying or Renting a dress is littleborroweddress.com! They offer a bunch of styles of dresses in different colors. Because the shop is online, they will send you fabric swatches to make sure that you are satisfied with the color. Perfect! Once you buy or rent the dress, they send you two sizes in case the other does not quite fit! Little Borrowed Dress takes the guess factor out of purchasing a dress online.

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Same dress, same color. This is the traditional bridesmaid dress scenario. The style and the color of the dresses are the same. Usually, the bride will chose the dress and whether you love or hate the dress does not matter! You would wear anything to make your bride happy!

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(This obviously isn’t a picture of bridesmaids but flower girls! My sister (Samantha) and I are leading the flower girl line! Thought it was too cute not to put in this post! Still shows the same dress, same color concept!)

Same dress, different color. This is another bridesmaid dress scenario that is a bit of a twist of the traditional same dress, same color. This could either be a hit or a miss. If you are not careful with the colors you chose, there will not be any sense of consistency in your wedding photos. However, if you can pull this off, your wedding photos will be creative and fun! One of my favorite themes for same style with different colors is pastels.

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This is a photo from my friend Adrienne’s wedding with her two bridesmaids my sister and I! Different dress, same color! Adorable…

Different dress, different color. This could also be a hit or miss. I was a bridesmaid in my friend Kristin’s wedding and she could not have pulled it off more beautifully! Her colors were a champagne/blush theme. The different shades and styles of dresses created a bohemian/eclectic look. Each bridesmaid felt comfortable in her dress, considering we all got to pick our dresses!

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This photo, shot by Kati Rosado, is a PERFECT example of how to accomplish the different dress, different color deal! Well done, Kristin! ❤

I love each of these options for Bridesmaid Dress shopping! My favorite is probably the different styles of dresses with different shades of the color of your wedding…I might steal that from you Kristin ;).

XO,

Jessica Calkins

Be Mine?

With Valentines Day coming soon, what better way to show someone you love them with some beautiful pieces from yours truly! Today we have compiled for you a bunch of our favorite jewelry, which by the way, is very hard because we love them all so very much!

::Handmade L o v e Collection::

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Dainty hand-wired letter initial pendants and hardwired heart pendants. Listing details are as follows from listing picture 1:
Heart (1), Love Necklace, Heart (2), I do

For both heart necklaces choose with or without handmade letter initial. You will find this in the listing details.

Handmade pendants and letter pendants are made with 20 gage beaded wire in 14K GF or Sterling Silver.

Both Hearts pendants are made with both 14K gold fill and sterling silver. They come in mixed metal.

If you prefer them made in all of one metal please note this at CHECKOUT at ETSY!

These necklaces are perfect as a gift on Valentines Day, or a gift for your bridesmaids on your big day! I absolutely love all of them, and they all look great paired with other jewelry. Like we said in a recent post, our jewelry ranges from gold to silver, but we love to pair the two together. We stand by effortless beauty, so we try to make our jewelry as effortless as possible. This necklaces, like their design, are worn close to the heart, and are always meant to be a reminder of the love you share with the people around you. These are great gifts for loved ones, but even better gifts for yourself if you are looking for something nice.

Remember, if you are interested in something, and want it custom designed, let us know exactly what you want so that we can make it as special and unique as you are!

Spread the love:)

Statement Pieces

Here at Bare and Me, we like to pride ourselves on our dainty jewelry that can be paired and layered with anything, but every once and a while, we like to surprise you with some beautiful statement pieces. Whether it is for a wedding or a night out on the town with your girls, our jewelry will make you the center of attention!

If you are looking for something that will grab the attention of everyone around you, you definitely have to take a look at this statement piece we have been selling a lot of lately. Everyone is looking for something to brighten up their wardrobe, and this should be on the top of your list.

:::Turquoise & Natural Wood Beaded Necklace in Gold:::

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*Turquoise Blue Swarovski round 12mm pearls
*Natural light wood (12mm) round
*Gold plate chain & findings

-Measures 19 inches but this necklace can be adjusted to be shorter

This necklace is even prettier in person! It hangs so beautifully and looks good with any colors! I love wearing this necklace with a plain white T shirt and some jeans and booties. It always plays up a normal outfit into something fun and unique. The beads are actually made of wood so they can either be dressed up or down to make the perfect outfit for a perfect night out.

:::Chalcedony & Natural Wood Beaded Necklace:::

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*Natural Chalcedony
*Natural light wood (10mm) round
*Gold plate chain & findings

-Measures 15.5 inches in length to 18 inches

This style is also another great statement piece if you are looking to tone things down a bit. Much like our three row beaded necklace above, this necklace is great for a night out, but is a bit more muted. It would look beautiful with an all black outfit and used as a pop of color! I adore this piece of jewelry and think it would be beautiful for Spring of 2015.

As you all know, Valentines Day is around the corner and this would be a wonderful gift for a loved one! So check us out on Etsy and put in some orders because we are selling fast! Hurry Hurry Hurry!

Love is in the air!

Laughter is The Best Remedy!

I was clicking through a bunch of the pictures taken from my sisters wedding last week and I couldn’t help but smile when I came across this picture of the wedding party. The photographer asked us to be silly, and from the looks of it, we had a blast. 

Laughter really is contagious. You see someone who is extremely happy and you cannot help but join in. 

I look at this picture and smile, because not only was a beautiful memory captured, but it really goes to show how important laughter is. 10403638_10101739561556647_3030907591696451872_n

VACATION BABY

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 Well….

I just got back from the Dominican Republic with my wonderful family and friends. We went to celebrate my sisters wedding, but we turned it into a little vacation, spanning from Tuesday the 12th to Sunday the 17th. 

When I say that I had the time of my life, I really mean it. 

This place was absolutely gorgeous. We stayed in the Paradisus Palma Real Golf and Spa Resort. It definitely had more of a family feel to it, but it was just what we all needed. Our relaxing days on the beach turned into sleepless nights, dancing and having a blast. Lots of the days consisted of laying on the beach and drinking in the pool. 

The ages ranged from about 13 years old to late 50’s, but everybody always stuck together! 

The wedding took place at a restaurant called the Jellyfish, which was a couple miles down the road from the actual resort that we stayed at. My sister wanted it to be more remote and away from all the clutter clatter of everything taking place at the resort. 

BOYYYY……. Did she pick a great place or what?!

It was breathtaking. She rented out the whole restaurant, which was right on the beach. The ceremony was on the beach, while dinner was held inside the restaurant. After dinner took place, speeches were given, songs were sung, and love was shared. It was the most beautiful wedding that I have ever seen. 

It is hard to explain how wonderful this past week was. So many memories have been made. From the dancing, to beach soccer, to hilarious jokes, we all remained to have an amazing time. Friendships were made, tears were shared, and vows were given. It is definitely hard getting back to the real world, where I can’t yell “WHO WANTS SOME MAMA JUANA!” everywhere I go. 

I am so happy for my sister and her new husband, because they have a love unlike any I have ever seen. Through the good times, and not so good times, they have remained to love one another more and more every day. 

On top of that, Bare and Me provided each of the Bridesmaids with some druzy earrings to wear for the wedding. They looked absolutely beautiful with the colors of the wedding!

Jellyfish Restaurant

Paradisus Palma Real

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How do you say “I love you”?

 

We were asked to be part of this unbelievable Wedding shoot and of course we were honored.

We are introducing our floral crowns at Lillyput Lane Design Company and Bare and Me for Fall and what a way to shout this to the world.  We are blessed with the love and support from many Brides who choose to use us to say “thank you” to their wedding parties.

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Photography: Lauren Werkheiser Photography | Event Planning: Elevee Events | Tables & Chairs: Dover Rent All Tents & Events | Cake: Carolina Sugar Fairies | Attire: Brides 2 Be | Hair & Makeup: Bad Hair Day | Florals: Bayberry | Floral Crown & Jewelry: Lilyput Lane Design Company; Bare & Me | Hanger: Handcrafted Affairs | Seed Packet Favors: Plantables & Paper | Papergoods: Elevee Paper via Printswell | Venue: Nassau Valley Vineyards