Bare and Me Valentine’s Day Give-A-Way…

Last day… Give-a-way ends at 6 pm eastern standard time…

Bare and Me

WE love to give away our jewelry and especially to our best’s…

Join the fun.

Here is how it will work.

Our first give-a-away will be for our Heart and Arrow Locket.

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What to do to win this beautiful necklace for you or a loved one…

1. Comment about what you love about this necklace.

2. Join us on INSTAGRAM @bare_and_me  (follow us) and comment on the heart and arrow picture that is the same as above. Facebook Bare and Me. All links our on our side board of the blog.

That is it. We will choose a winner on January 22 2015 at 6pm eastern standard time.

WE would love if you could share us with your friends on all of our social media sites.

Good Luck,

Laurie

designer and creator of bare and me.

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REASONS TO HIRE AN INTERIOR DESIGNER

Many people have the misconception that having an interior designer is a luxury that is only available to those with extra cash. However, what people don’t realize is that an interior designer will save you time, money, and mistakes made on projects within their home.Check out my reasons why to hire an interior designer!

SAVE TIME| A remodeling project requires an enormous amount of detail and logistics that require coordination and management. An interior designer takes on the “mental aguish factor” that comes with overseeing these processes.

SAVE MONEY| With the knowledge that interior designers acquire over years of experience, they can make educated and evidence-based decisions on materials and installation processes, to make sure that your design is executed right the first time. Those who take it upon themselves to design, end up wasting money on products that aren’t durable or great quality.

PROFESSIONAL ANALYSIS| Interior designers will give their clients detailed examinations of their space including space planning, knowledge of materials, systems and products, and more.

COUNTLESS RESOURCES| As Interior Designers, they have access to “Trade Only Showrooms.” This means that countless, one-of-a-kind, materials are available to us only as Design Professionals.

BUDGET MANAGEMENT| Once a designer determine your wants, desires and needs, they will weigh your needs against your projected budget. They will give you estimates for the cost of products, materials, shipping, delivery, freight, installation, to make sure you all the pieces fit within your budget, before you start ordering any materials.

Xo,

Jessica Calkins

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Dear You

Dear You,

I still remember our first date. You took me to a local arcade and mini golf center. You let me beat you in pool. You tried to teach me how to strike a golf ball, and laughed silently in the background as I stubbornly tried over and over again, getting worse and worse every hit.

We went to get sushi afterwards. You talked a lot, because I was too nervous. But thats how I liked it. I liked that you wanted to talk. That you wanted me to know about your life. It felt good.

You kissed me before you opened the car door. It was fresh and new, but at the same time, it felt wonderful, and somewhat like home. I went to sleep that night and was excited to see you the next day, and hopefully, you would want to see me again.

You did.

You wanted to see me. You liked me. And I liked you.

I knew that when we left each other after that first date, that you would make a huge impact on my life.

We aren’t perfect. Nobody is. But I wouldn’t have it any other way. Because that is passion.

Yeah, we get mad at each other, and sometimes we want to strangle one another, but its because we are so passionate about each other, and the many other things in our life. We cover all parts of the spectrum, all parts of what makes up life.

I do love you. All of you. Your imperfections, your spontaneity, your passion for life, and your stubbornness. You make me very happy, and I thank you for that.

We sure are a mess, but I wouldn’t have it any other way. So, thank you. For being you.

Sincerely,

Me.

GRAY IS THE NEW BEIGE!

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  1. a pale sandy yellowish-brown color.
    “tones of beige and green”
    synonyms: fawn, pale brown, sand, buff, sandy, oatmeal, khaki, biscuit, coffee, coffee-colored, cafe au lait, camel, ecru

Is anyone else tired of this lack-luster, mind-numbing color we call beige? I know I am and I am ready for the HOTTEST color this year…GRAY! Gray is such a versatile color and has a wide range of hues, shades, and tones that create different sensations within a space. Gray can be used to create a glamorous, calming, or edgy space. The wide range of warm and cool grays compliment beautiful colors such as blush, yellow, red, white (some of my favorites). It can be used in a classic, transitional, or modern design! What do you think about gray? Check out some of these spaces that incorporated gray into there space. unnamed unnamed (11) unnamed (10) unnamed (9) unnamed (8) unnamed (7) unnamed (6) unnamed (5) unnamed (4) unnamed (3) unnamed (2) Xo, Jessica Calkins Definition provided by Google

ADVENTURE DRIVEN

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In the short 21 years of my life, I have been lucky enough to do some pretty wonderful things. I studied abroad in London, England; I played against semi pro soccer teams all throughout Italy, and I traveled to Italy two other times to sing in various churches with the most wonderful group.

Nobody ever told me that I couldn’t do the things that I did, so I did exactly that. I packed my bags, boarded a plane, and made some amazing memories. Traveling was not only a good time for me; it helped me to grow up, in a very short amount of time. If you are in a place where you don’t understand the language, you don’t know where you are, and you are pretty sure you don’t know which bathroom to walk in, you are forced to learn. You have to stay aware of your surroundings, remain open minded, and always, always, always, keep your purse as close as possible. You need to grow some thick skin, and always stay positive, because things may not turn out completely how you expected it to be.

Along with that, traveling allows you to make memories with new people. You meet so many different people throughout your travels, and most of the time, these are people that you would have never crossed paths with before. I remember when I was in Italy and a coupe of my friends and I decided to go to a café to enjoy us some amazing gelato. We would always listen for American accents because that was what we were familiar with. We would meet so many people, and share so many stories, and it was really nice to have that moment of pure comfort in such an exhilarating situation.

But lastly, and most importantly to me, traveling helped me to learn a lot about my self. A lot of things that I was never aware of, until I made it to Europe. I found out that I actually do a lot better, and perform a lot better in stressful situations. There were times when my group was lost in, god knows where, and I wasn’t stressed at all. I pulled out my map, checked where we were, and safely got us back to our hotel, and warm beds. Everyone was shocked that I did it so easily, but I really learned that situations like that are when I step up and out of my shell. I also learned about the aspirations I have for myself. I was able to truly appreciate the many different cities we were in; so much so that I knew that in the future I would consistently come back to them.

The world is so much greater than you. Than just you, and what you are doing at this moment. Its a beautiful place filled with so many beautiful people. I consider myself so lucky to have traveled as much as I have. But for the future, I know exactly what it holds. It holds an unlimited amount of new experiences in an unlimited amount of different places, and I cannot wait.

5 Ways of Romanticizing Your Bedroom

Creating an atmosphere in a space is one of the main reasons why I love to do what I do. Elements of design such as lighting, color, and texture trigger our senses to feel a certain way. Here are some tips of how you can create sexy vibes within your bedroom…

  1. Get Rid of your TV – even though we love to cuddle up and watch our favorite shows together, the television is a distraction in the bedroom. If you don’t believe me, take your TV out of your room for a week, let me know if you notice a difference.
  1. Candles/Set Lighting on Dimmer—Ditch those overhead lights that are on a fixed switch and install them on a dimmer. Nothing is sexier than a well-lit room. Everybody knows that those recessed cans are just not a flattering as you’d like them to be. Create shadows and highlights in your bedroom. The soft glow of light that filters throughout a room will set the mood! Also, candles are a great source of creating a romantic atmosphere.
  1. Scents – Candles, Essentials Oils and Fresh Flowers—Not only does lighting play a huge role in creating a romantic bedroom, but scents are just as important! Scent is the most powerful of our senses and when used correctly, can affect the mood in the bedroom. Some of my favorite romantic scents are Lavender, Bergamot, Sandalwood, Sage, and Mint. Anything floral like lavender will create a relaxing atmosphere. Bergamot is a type of orange that leaves a sweet and spicy smell of citrus. Sandalwood, which is commonly used in most incense, is a woody, exotic scent that will have you feeling relax and uplifted. Mint, which is my favorite, creates a clean, refreshing, and simulates your body when you breathe it in.
  1. Invest in a lush, luxurious comforter—Investing in a good comforter will not only give you a great nights rest, but also creates an inviting environment. Who wouldn’t want to jump right into a plush, luxurious cloud of down and feathers?
  1. Soft Color Palette—When creating a romantic bedroom, remember that we are creating a dream-like, non-aggressive environment. To achieve this, red is not the way to go. Though red is a very sexy color, it is aggressive. Try using whites, soft greys, blushes, soft blues and greens.

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Xo,

Jessica Calkins

I Love You & I Want You…

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Lately, Matt and I have been very busy and have had a hard time making time for each other. We both have been promoted at our jobs, we have recently moved into a house of our own, (with a house comes larger bills and responsibilities), we are planning a wedding, we have our growing nine and a half month old puppy and ten and a half month old kitty, and friends and family that deserve our attention and our time! Our relationship has gone through many ups and downs, just like any relationship…However, we are consciously making vast efforts to make time for what is most important, each other. Here are some of our tips that we’ve been trying to implement throughout our weekly schedules.

#1 Remind each other that you are their number one priority. When Matt and I decided that we liked each other and we wanted to spend more and more time together, life was easy. We didn’t have a house, bills, a wedding to plan, animals to care for…It was literally Matt and I. All we did was focus on each other and make each other a priority in our lives. Then we added an apartment to the equation. This came along with bills and stress. Then we brought home Rosie and Moe…and the list goes on. When our relationship grew, so did our responsibilities and stress levels. We recognized that we were putting all the things in front of our relationship and that we had lost sight of why we were even here in the first place, each other. When you are going throughout your week, make sure to remind each other that you are their number one priority and everything else isn’t as important.

#2 Leave work at work. This is a big one! What a lot of people don’t understand is work is not what defines you. It took Matt and me a while to figure this one out. Both Matt and I work in stressful situations. For Matt – he is a teacher for the county and works with special needs students. This job requires an incredible amount of patience and compassion and can leave you feeling stressed by the end of the day. For me – I work in an environment where there are very high standards expected out of me, which I love. Every day is a challenge and learning to balance certain aspects can be stressful. However, when Matt and I come home from work, we leave our issues and stress at the door. Maybe if one of us had a bad day, we will talk about it with each other and help each other de-stress. For example, if Matt knows that I had a bad day at work, he will clean the house for me because he knows I hate coming home to a dirty house. He loves me…

#3 Organize your bills and responsibilities around the house and write them down. Money and bills are a huge factor in a marriage or any relationship that will eventually cause you stress. People will tell you that money doesn’t matter and love is the only thing that matters. That’s not true. In our world, money is what provides you with food, shelter, and peace of mind. It is important to keep in mind that money is only an object and it can’t make you happy, but it will stress you out. What Matt and I are currently doing to organize our bills and responsibilities is importing them into this App on our iPhones and iPad. Once everything is organized, then the fun begins. In order for us to accomplish our goals financially, we have been finding fun and entertaining ways of saving and spending our money.

#4 Learning how to fight. This is another important one. For me, when I get angry, I need space. If Matt keeps arguing with me, I won’t back down. He is the same way. We are VERY stubborn. What we have done to eliminate that aspect of arguing is give each other time and space away. Sometimes, it will only take Matt and I five minutes to smile at each other and then it’s over. Fighting in a relationship is normal, in fact, if you’re not fighting, there is something wrong. What the tricky part about relationships is learning how each other fight and learning what you need to not continue to fight. Learning how to fight has been one of Matt and I’s goals since the beginning of our relationship and we are perfecting it every single day.

#5 Giving each other time and space for yourself and friends. Anyone who lives with their significant other understands what I mean. Spending 100% of your time with your significant other while you are not at work can get on your nerves. It is really important that you make time not only for your friends, but for yourself. In my first point, I said that making each other your number one priority is really important. But there is one exception: yourself. You are always your number one priority, you have been in a relationship with yourself for a very long time. Maybe you just want to relax and get your nails done. Maybe he just wants to go throw a couple baskets in the court for a while. Spending time away from each other only makes you miss that person even more. When Matt and I spend time away from each other, I feel accomplished because I did what I wanted for myself and I can’t wait to get home to see Matt. It makes our time together more special.

#5 Show that you love and want each other constantly. When you are alone with each other, make sure to not only tell each other that you love them, but that you want them. Feeling wanted and needed is something that every human being craves. Reminding each other, whether it is through words or a kiss, do it passionately. Even holding that kiss for an extra couple of seconds can do a lot.

There are a lot of ways of making time or creatively using your time with your significant other. You can even make doing dishes together fun. Or maybe instead of eating dinner in front of the TV on the sofa, you set the dinner table and enjoy each other’s company. Everything that you do with each other doesn’t have to be romantic, however, making that extra effort and emphasizing that time with each other is important to you, is key!

Xo,

Jessica Calkins

 

Saying Goodbye

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A year ago yesterday my Uncle passed away.

Let me rephrase that. A year ago yesterday my Uncle was unexpectedly taken from us. Before the blink of an eye, he was gone. He wasn’t physically there, and to be quite honest, it isn’t fair. It wasn’t then, and it isn’t now. But thats how it happens. People are taken from their loved ones every single day, and they have to cope with it.

For a while there, I didn’t really think it was real. That a week before he was joking around with me over text about my “recent new boyfriend” and how no boy could ever be good for his niece. A week before, he was fine. He was there. He was happy.

We were happy.

How could something like this happen. We didn’t deserve it. Nobody ever deserves that kind of sadness.

Death is an inevitable part of everybody’s life, and there really is no way around it. Having said that, nobody should ever have to be ready for death, and nobody should ever be ready to say goodbye to somebody that they love so much.

The day that I learned that my Uncle was rushed to the ER, I thought that everything would turn out okay. Like my Uncles usual antics, he probably fell off a ladder, or accidentally shot himself on his foot.

I didn’t think that I wouldn’t have a chance to say goodbye. I didn’t know that I had to prepare myself to see him, because he was in such bad shape.  He was hooked up to so many tubes. It wasn’t my Uncle that was laying in that bed.

My Uncle was already gone.

For some of you that may know my Uncle, he was a little on the wild side. Of basically everything. He had a ponytail down most of his back, fake teeth, and a rainbow colored house. He loved playing jokes on people, and he hated being the center of attention.

He never took care of himself. Never.

My Uncle was alone, for three days before he was found in his house. I cannot even imagine what was going through his mind. I still play it all back in my mind, and it makes me so sad.

Like I said, my Uncle was known for his jokes he played on people. But boy, did people love him. Those couple days where he was in the hospital, people came and people went, but every person that entered that room had a story to tell.

Each person carried a memory of my Uncle with them, and for that, I am so thankful. That a man as wacky as him made an impression.

I sit here writing this post, tears in my eyes, and I laugh. My Uncle would hate to see me cry. So much so that he would probably bonk me upside the head and tell me to “Cool it”.

My Uncle was an amazing human being and he will always be remembered for that. Saying goodbye is not an easy thing, never will be. But I am glad that my Uncles spirit remains the topic of so many conversations that remain.